So this weekend was a long weekend here in Canada and I stayed over at my girlfriend’s house. We had sex about 6 times in a matter of 3 days with some pretty exciting parts. However, on the last day we tried to have sex but my erection just would not get. The way it we usually set it up is my girlfriend stimulates me until I get hard and we have sex but on the last day it just wouldn’t get up. I chalked it up to just having too much sex that weekend but I’m still bothered by the fact that I couldn’t get it up on that one instance. The exercises seem to be helping me calm down but I feel like this one set back planted a new seed of doubt in which I hope won’t grow into anything further given the progress I’ve experienced so far. Any advice on how to shake off this feeling? I also felt that the more we tried to get me hard the greater my worries became. Idk if this is a common thing
Bro, I’ll say this to you like I did someone else. You’re killing it. In a good way. Sex six times in three days?? Fantastic!
Don’t panic. Don’t expect perfection from yourself. You’re not on the verge of backtracking.
It is normal and expected for sometimes you not to get hard when desired. I think it basically happens to all men at some point. The key is to understand that’s normal and not an indication of anything to worry about.
Use the 3:1 positive thought to negative thought ratio. When you start to worry, think three positive thoughts instead. I know you have the positives to reflect on because you just had a killer weekend of sex.
Thanks for this. It was just all going so well and then this one hiccup kinda rattled me a bit but it’s good to know. I guess I just gotta keep going with the exercises and hopefully this will happen less and less
If you have 6 times in 3 days it will get better, if you just wait. Sometimes if you have a lot of sex, back on back, it can hamper you to get hard. Because the refractory period can get a little longer after a lot of ejaculation in a short time period. At least it makes you us less horny. You can improve this by sometimes satisfying her, without cuming.
6 times in one weekend! Congrats! I’m lucky if I can get 2-3 times a week with my wife, though once a week is more the norm (being 45 and having 2 kids at home). You probably were in that refractory period where no matter what you do it’s difficult to get hard again. And the more you think about it the worse it gets. The exercises here, breathing, positive thinking, staying tuned to the sexy touches and stimulation all help. You can always try some extra toys or have her touch you or stimulate you differently than the other times you had done previously over that weekend. I am having my wife touch and move her hands more below my balls to the taint and around my legs more - blood seems to be restored and then I am so ready to go inside her! Also, having Sildenafil as an insurance policy helps too! Good luck!
I’ve had this before where I had a successful weekend (not 6 times in 3 days you dawggg, well done!) but it can still be demoralising when we lose an erection even after multiple sex sessions. It doesn’t define your progress and as one bro said above, we can’t expect perfection!
Your body also needs rest and it can take time to rejuvenate. You’re killing it bro, keep it up and be gentle with yourself
Thanks for this, that occurrence was really bothering me. I was pretty tired by the end. I guess I just have that notion that since I’m only 22 I should be good to go no matter what but this is reassuring. Thank you
I think the amount of times I did it that weekend can be due to the fact that my girlfriend is away on work trips for extended periods of time so when we see each other we kinda have a lot of built up sexual urges. Thanks for the advice. I like this community a lot