I’ve been with my new gf for 18mths. The first 6mths was great, the sex was amazing, but then we had a falling out, and since then Ive been trying to get things back on track. In the midst of all this when we do have sex the last 8mths I’ve not been lasting long at all it’s frustrating me and it’s frustrating her I can tell. Now the last 2mths I’ve wanted to have sex with her but have found myself not going for it worried it’s going to happen again, this is also frustrating me and maybe her, I dont want it to keep happening I love this girl and dont want to lose her.and one thing I e always wanted is a good healthy sex life in a relationship. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I wish I could help,… my issue is the other way around…
Hoping others will chime in to help.
I do know there’s many resources forcPE in the Explore tab…. (Not my issue, so I hadn’t paid much attention…) 
Good luck man!!
I’ve had a mix of issues but stress is probably what it’s about and you’re stressing out over it obviously. You need to talk to her about it have permission to stop and start if you need to work through it. In my experience if you can time it right stop early do something else for a little bit then get back into it that can help. Also in the moment try looking at something random could be the bedpost a lamp the design on a pillow whatever . Focus on that and take deep long breaths, calm yourself down. Also a bit of foreplay to get her to cum then get straight in there. I’ve found when a woman cums they are just primed to keep coming if you keep going. It can really be quite something if you get it right. Good luck. Oh kegels and reverse kegels too
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Dude, I have this exact problem. It’s definitely a “in ur head” thing. Not sure if the falling out affect this or if other things in life are stressing you out. But, remember that you are, in fact, the man. You’ve done it before and you’ll do it again. Don’t be afraid to initiate anything.
You know it’s a mind thing if you finish quickly from sex but not quickly from oral sex. Sometimes our minds stress over the wrong things.
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hey man, just poppin in to let u know. it’s all in ur head. u gotta think glass half full. be positive about stuff and the rest will come soon. ur a great person. she wouldn’t want to do it with anyone else. at least u are given the opportunity to have sex, lots of people aren’t. be thankful u can cum, i know i wasnt able to for a long time and had to get comfortable. and finally be thankful u can get an erection. something i struggle with and would die to even be in ur shoes. anything is better than nothing bro. keep ur chin up and embrace the glass half full method and you’ll be a happier guy. nothing wrong with not lasting long. especially if u can at least get hard.
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Some solutions: lidocaine in your penis head5 min before penetration, you both find a position that will make you last longer and have it like your ace card when you feel like coming (for me I lay down and rest on my back and he is above me), deep breath when you feel like coming, comunícate when to relax the movement for your couple to know.
Thank you all for your input. To add I have had a stressful couple of years (I do think this plays a huge part) and the not lasting long has probably added to that… I’m trying kegels but not sure if I’m doing it right, I’ve tried breathing in the moment but sometimes too late (not sure when to start and she’ll probably say “why you breathing like that”… I’ve tried to talk to her about me stop starting and she doesn’t get it, I’ve asked her to educate herself on the topic but doubt she has… will talk with her again about this and explain better.
It’s frustrating but I am trying. I just need to push myself into having sex with her again and see what happens.
I pray for you guys who have commented that things work out for you too…