Hey, first time posting.
I’ve struggled with PE ever since I lost my Virginity at 14. (I’m 21 now)
In my first serious relationship now, we’ve been dating for 2 years. The only time I can actually last long enough to satisfy my gf is when I’m drunk and that makes her feel bad about herself and it isn’t sustainable.
Last night we had sex and I came in like 45 seconds. This has been happening recently and we had a long conversation afterwards.
We love each other and neither of us want to break up but for the entire relationship almost I’ve been struggling with this. (I’ll be able to last a normal amount of time very very rarely)
She confessed to me that sex has started to make her anxious because of this problem and I just feel fucking terrible.
I feel so guilty that I can’t perform for her and that I’m ruining our sex life
I just want to encourage you and say you got this man. As we go through this process together we will come out better and amazing. Remember this, you are amazing already. That’s why she is there with you.
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What kind of sex are you having? Is she on top or are you? If you cum too quick try being on top instead of bottom. When you feel as though you’re going to cum, SLOW DOWN the strokes and even pull out for a second. If you’re just thrusting non stop during sex of course you will cum faster. Mix penetration, and fore play as well as kissing. Mix all of these together and it will help a lot. 
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Agree w other poster. You have to find different positions that allow you better control and be able to switch into/out of those. I could go all day in missionary without ever finishing but I’m done in 2 min in doggy. You have to find what works for both of you.
I’m here for PE too, it wasn’t always this bad for me, but most of this year I’ve cum within a minute of entering my wife. It’s mental for me and stressing about lasting kicks in flight or fight. Stick to the exercises and continue open and honest communication. Maybe also try other positions as others have said. Good luck and stick with it!
You might also try OMGyes to explore ways to satisfy her, if you make her cum before hand it might take some pressure off. That has always worked for me, I can last substantially longer knowing she has gotten hers, pressure and anxiety are off. Plus for a some women penetration feels better after an orgasm
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I am struggling with this too and yes pleasuring her first helps a lot and I feel less stress about making her cum but she likes it and it’s helped me last a little bit longer now mojo has some good tips on staying out of your own head
Maybe try a cock ring. They can help physically (constriction and more control) and confidence wise. But it’s tricky to find just the right one…. It can also be fun…
Worth a shot…
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