I have an issue where every time my partner starts to try and arouse me or everytime I am near her I always get a very strong erection, it’s very sensitive and I climax extremely quickly no matter what, in seconds. It’s really embarrassing and im struggling with finding out why this is happening to me. I get too aroused too quick and can’t even ease into sex without climaxing. Anyone can help?
Slow down, change positions (eg grinding) and try box breathing to help calm down.
I’m the complete total opposite and I promise you it’s as frustrating. I can have sex for hours and struggle to cum unless I know it’s unprotected and I can inside her (which is never), as a result I have to finish outside which doesn’t feel natural and I fear it’s made the issue worse in terms of replying on my hand too much
Can you get back up in 15-20 mins? If so do you climax as quickly as then? If you can get back up pretty quick guessing you will last a lot longer with round 2. If you and your partner go in with the mind set of fast first round but we will have a round 2 can and should take a whole load of pressure off of you. Maybe the first time will start to last longer if you know that the first nut isn’t the last and that you both can enjoy the second. My wife just verbalized it once not too long ago when I went pretty quick and said “that’s probably not that enjoyable for you is it?” Then we got to have a small discussion about how it’s not enjoyable at all. The good feelings of orgasm aren’t there under the feeling of shame and the feeling of dissapointing her. I think some women might think that PE feels great for the man cause they orgasmed got what they wanted and are going to go off to blissful sleep now. Might also be worth a conversation with your partner so she knows its not enjoyable for you. Good luck man!
I found communication helpful which can be clunky to initiate but worth it. My wife was trying to get me to finish as quickly as possible and make it feel as good as possible because that’s what she thought I wanted. In the meantime I was in my head about trying to last as long as I could, not fully taking in what was going on. After talking it over, we’ve really slowed things down in bed which has helped both of us