Hello all, I wrote a letter to my wife in an attempt to get her to open up more about what she wants to have better sex and the idea was to exchange what we both like by writing it down, she seemed to quite appreciate the letter as it took the pressure off answering straight away. She is someone who gets really embarrassed discussing sex so I wanted to be patient with her. Whether I bring it up subtlety she said she wants to wait until we have time off over Xmas to discusss it. I am desperate to improve our sex lives as I sense I enjoy sex much more than she does and I have made it open that I want to change that by discussing it with her.
Has anyone got any tips on how to make take the sting out of making sex discussions so embarrassing? I wouldn’t say I find talking about sex that easy but as I want my wife to enjoy sex more I feel it is important!
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I’d start by being honest about your feelings and then ask her for how she feels. Listen to understand and ask clarifying questions to show you’re listening. She may open up more. Good luck!
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This is a really though one, my partner is the same, but I am more open. I dont have too many suggestions but she is also very dominant and gets off god damn, she knows what she wants basically. I would look to ways you can support her exploring and finding what she likes…?
Had the same with my wife this year. Felt we were on autopilot a bit. Basically poured my heart out to her, made it clear she has never done anything wrong and made sure she understood I was only expressing how it felt. I was completely honest, telling her my fantasies, what I like, how often I like it, how much I found her attractive, how much I want to try things, and most importantly, how much I want her to know how sexy she is and how I want her to have amazing sex.
I made sure we had lots of time alone, she was relaxed and in a good mood. I also made it clear I wanted to talk about sex later so it wasn’t an ambush.
Well it worked way beyond my wildest dreams, she now know how I really feel about her and sex and I think it makes her feel sexy. We bought a card game with 3 levels of sexy things to do, going from vanilla to a lot of stuff I’m sure not entirely leagal and it’s been a brilliant ice breaker. I highly recommend it, at the least you’ll have a good laugh at some ideas. Laughing and sex is amazing, so I’ve found.
Good luck, guess what I’m saying, be 100% honest, tell her you inner most feelings and she’ll just know you’re being sincere. For me, being completely exposed allowed my wife to do the same and she opened up…a game changer.
Good luck
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