I met this girl and she is beautiful, we talk about future even though we try to enjoy the present. We have dated for a month and in the last couple of date we ended in steamy situation. First time was a complete disaster, second time I was able to have sex for a short time then lost the erection. When I am not with her I get morning wood, I get erections and I can wank just fine. But with her making it erect is really a struggle, it is definitely performance stress but I am not sure how to solve this. I don’t have an inner critic voice, rather a feeling on my shoulders and arms, what for me is the classic anxiety signal. When she calls me it activates.
Have you tried box breath or grounding exercises when she calls ? Or anything else that distracts you … keep with it till the anxiety aspect subsides . Hug
It’s definitely in your mind only and just reading between the lines, maybe sub-consciously you feel your punching above your weight and that you’re not good enough for this beautiful girl.
Your sub-conscious is basically self sabotaging you into fight/flight/freeze mode instead of feed and breed mode. Stick with the app and it will help you out of this mindset and get you rock hard again. When you learn to just be in the moment and truly feel connected with her, your body will do what it’s designed to do with her body without any need for thinking.