I’m seeing a girl that I think I have potential and a future with. We have tried to have sex twice and both times I couldn’t get it up. This is with 20 mg of cialis as well. The anxiety is so high. And it kills my confidence for the rest of the time we are together. I feel all panicky the next day. Everything is going so well outside of sex. I find her so attractive and usually cant keep my hands off her. I don’t wanna lose her. She is so great but I feel like I’m letting her down and she will lose interest in me. It feels so doom and gloom. I try to restore faith and focus in bettering myself. I have stopped watching porn for the last month. I have basically stopped masturbating for the last 2 weeks. I don’t know what to do. Does anyone have some suggestions or stories?
If she loves you, have a long foreplay session . Eat her out and make her orgasm so she knows it isn’t her . Ask her to just touch your body, eat loves, butt, body etc with zero pressure to have sex. Ask her to maybe have a fantasy play that normally turns you on mentally . This has been working for me . If your mind can turn it off it can also turn it on . Let go of the need to perform and just lay naked and touch . Be sensual and just not worry about having sex. Eventually, your body will feel safe and will respond. Best Wishes
You’re doing all the right things! Keep going and working through the app and things WILL get better!!!
This is very true. As long as your mind doesn’t feel pressured to have sex, everything else will folow. If it doesn’t work just play with her and certainly don’t think: “I need to have an erection”
Trust me bro, it’s hard but will get better.
Just pretend sex isn’t even an option…I’ll bet you’ll be fine.
Thanks people! I appreciate it. I will try to get it sorted out so that we can just have sensual touch instead of
I’ve found that if I start foreplay and get her to finish a couple times either with fingers or orally, it takes the pressure off me and my dick. She’s super understanding and we’ve had conversations about my issue. I’m overcoming PED and she’s helping me overcome my deathgrip. I suggested a couple ways she can help: talking open and maybe a lil naughty in bed, sometimes she takes charge, I love it when she tells me what SHE wants. We’ve only been together a year and my issues have come a long way in that time with help from this app AND her being amazing!