I’m trying to tell myself that there really is nothing wrong with me and it’s just all in my head. That’s scary but it’s reassuring to know I’m physically healthy and will perform well when I relax.
That my penis is inadequate
I’ve been thinking a lot about the voice of my Inner Coach. For a long while, it’s been the video of a woman I care deeply about, but who I’ve refused to take the risk of expressing my feelings.
On top of that, I’ve begun to wonder why the voice of my Inner Coach isn’t my own. And I think it’s because I lack self-worth. I’ve been working on that. I deserve to stand up for myself, to express myself to others. It’s a risk I have to take for my own well-being.
Last time I had sex it was going great and I know she was very into it but after the alcohol wore off a bit and we had sex a few more times I felt myself panicking thinking about how I “always cum early” and it manifested and I came more quickly after the first time, I talked myself into thinking I always had the problem
One thought I can reprogram is “I can’t get hard” because I’ve already had successful sex with my new partner for hours and she told me it was the best she had. I just need to trust and believe in myself and enjoy what I’m doing not try and prove myself to her.
A bit pointless this one. Too terrified of not being able to perform to have had a recent decisions experience. Not a great one for the ego.
everytime i can’t get hard it’s longer until the next time we try to have sex. this gets into my head and puts more pressure to perform which in turn adds more stress and makes it even harder to be able to get hard
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I tried prescription medicine and it didn’t help me delay the end. I will probably never fix it
I have a multitude of categories that include all or nothing, over generationalisation, disqualifying the positive and catastrophising. I never realised how bad this could be until this exercise!
When I can’t get hard, I think my partner is going to leave me.
When I am half way through sex I start telling myself I can’t cum & it always come true.
After having sex with a good erection, if I have issues the next time I immediately think “”not this AGAIN, I throughout I was DONE with this” and spiral from there. Truth is it’ll probably be hit or miss for a bit as we correct my thinking habits
My worries flit between Im gonna lose my erection and I’m going to cum too fast. I can’t seem to find a calm balance
To stop the focus on anticipation that something will go wrong
My negative thought is that i will lose my erection when it’s time to have penetrative sex.
I need to stop avoiding situations that might get intimate for fear that they might go bad. I need to let myself experience these situations to see that they can go well
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I’m not a failure for ed
Fortune telling, I cannot predetermine what will happen, that makes me unfocused on the present
I’d like to reprogram the belief that losing an erection during sexual play is a reflection of my desire or lust for my partner. This is not true, but sparks negative spiraling thoughts at the first sense of losing hardness.
My negative thought is that I am somehow less of a man because I struggle to keep it hard the whole time when my partner can.