Whatever your relationship status, how do you feel about discussing erection issues or early climax with a partner?

I started SNRIs recently and as my body was adapting my wife and I were intimate for the first time in a year (new baby). I explained about issues with maintaining a reaction and orgasm; it is common and not personal. I’ve not had her volunteer to go down on me since we started dating, but every time I flagged, she worked to fluff me back to hardness.

I don’t really have a problem discussing the topic

My partner knows and is very open about my issues but sometimes I do not communicate my nervousness going into sex

This gives them a feeling of authenticity coming from me

I can see how this would definitely help take the pressure off, and I think if dating or seeing the same girl multiple times it is definitely something I can do and would probably really help. I feel that in a one night stand situation though I would struggle to talk about it, even though I know I should

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I havent done it, but want to try it

Discussing it definitely helps to take the pressure off a bit, but that acceptance feom my oartner can sometimes keep me stuck in a state of low libido or avoiding sex.
More important is accepting it myself, and explaining this to my partner, rather than explaining it to receive their acceptance. I like what was said in the video about keeping it light. This is my thing, no biggie, I’m working through it, let’s enjoy ourselves.

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It makes me uncomfortable. Sometimes I think it makes the problem worst

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It’s really difficult discussing them with my partner. I feel like im going to disappoint them or feel like it’s their fault even if I say it’s not. especially since we’ve been in a relationship for years and have had successful sex many times

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This has been the most valuable lesson I take from here. I’m 70 days in my mojo journey, I’ve been struggling for more than 10 years, I’ve meet with someone absolutely amazing last Friday, I told her that sometimes I can have problem having an erection on first couple times I have sex with someone before we get serious. She also opened up to me sharing her insecurities. And when I did go to my head, thinking I shared what was happening and she calmed me down helped me and I haven’t had so amazing sex in my life.

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Thanks for sharing that man. It really shines a light between the clouds for me.

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What is to be gained from denying an issue?

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Unable to get an erection has been a fairly recent issue with my wife, and these conversations have not gone well. I like the advice about getting more comfortable with it myself. The ED issue really weighs on me, and it makes the conversations too heavy. If I can it feel lighter, maybe the conversations will go better.

I feel ok about sharing early climax with my fiancé but I still struggle to last longer why?

I have never really shared my issues before because I was using Viagra to help supplement my erectile issues and now that I’m in a relationship that I care about, I’ve opened up about it + it seems to just be causing me more stress which elevates the issue

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I often talk to my wife about my concerns. She is more supportive than I expected.

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I like the idea of keeping it light, owning it, showing that you’re working on it, and setting the playing field early on. I did this recently with a casual partner. It was well received and promoted them to be vulnerable too.

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I feel good about talking to them about it.

Haven’t had the conversation but this was good advice

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I’m ok about it … I want them to know that I still love intimacy but sometimes it’s not going to happen to ease their mind so they can still enjoy the time together

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