She’s my team and soul mate. I’m pretty open, and I know she will listen to me vice-versa
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Afraid, of course. Because it’s not easy. I constantly compare my erection to my partner’s, and his seems always perfect.
My early climax issues where sorted as soon as I told my partner at start that this may happen and it has happened in past . But over the past year I have now managed to control it and I very rarely end up having the issue any more . It all came about by talking about it , and we switched things up with our foreplay , talking open really helps
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It’s challenging with my wife, in the past she feels like I am putting it on her or asking her to solve it which is not true. I appreciate these tips and the “I” statements will help I think.
We are in our biggest fight about my lower sex drive which fed by wrong inner thoughts while I should have no shame or stress about my performance I just bring it from the past
I started experiencing erectile dysfunction maybe two decades ago, while my wife and I were on a holiday at a wonderful country inn. The setting was so blasted romantic and erotic that my member just stayed hiding behind my belt and refused to come out and play. It was the beginning of a melancholy era in our intimate life together. Not too long after that, we both went through some other serious health problems, and now, here we are. My interest in sex has revived full bore – except that I still can’t get it up. My wife has no interest whatsoever and now talks divorce whenever she catches me ogling a pretty female online. I’m in mid-stage Parkinson’s, unlikely to walk again unaided, comforted only by memories of past passions. To say I crave connection and miss it terribly is severely understating the case, I’m sorry to say.
I feel fairly comfortable discussing these issues with both people I’m dating at the moment. However, one of them is quite a new connection and she doesn’t do communication SUPER well. So, I feel like I’m still figuring out her boundaries and how to best open up to her. But she seems very understanding of my issues and curious about my progress with Mojo and other sexual wellbeing things I’ve been doing; so it’s getting easier as our connection grows.
Buy honestly, I’ve had partners in the past who have reacted horrendously when I couldn’t get it up, which knocked my confidence significantly. Having partners who understand and want to help is one of the best ways to overcome these issues and I’m very grateful for these wonderful people I currently have in my life.
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Well I don’t really have those issues so I guess I don’t have a desire to bring those things up. This is kind of off topic from what I was expecting.
I believe in science, if it says it works, it works.
I feel like some girls can get turned off by that, judge you or discuss how you failed with their friends.
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Well it helps that my partner is understanding and willing to help. But sometimes she just straight up says she wants penetrative sex.
I feels like a very uncomfortable conversation to have and almost like if you’re owning it it’s self fulfilling
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Casually dating and first time I brought it up with someone they were very supportive and we focused on other things. Definitely made me feel more comfortable with the situation but still some things I need to work on personally
I’ve been talking about it with my wife for some time. I statements help tremendously. “I’m in my own head, let’s try something else for a bit”
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It’s an uncomfortable conversation to have for sure, but a necessary one to stay on the same page as your partner. & if words of affirmation happens to be either of your love languages (or both), it can potentially be a bonding experience.
This may help with my wife, but we are alreadt talking about it. My bigger issue is we have started swinging and seeking threesomes which is what seems to be causing my issues
I have had these conversations in the past and I am still very uncomfortable to bring this up
I’ve gotten better at having these conversations but sometimes revert to old ways and I don’t communicate my needs well
I’ve become very confident in being vulnerable having difficult conversations with my girlfriend. She’s done the same for me with issues she has sexually so it’s a two way street
Before I opened up with my girlfriend she blamed herself and got depressed when i had trouble getting an erection. Now she tries to make me feel more comfortable. I used to feel like this issue belonged to me and me alone but now i feel like it is something we are tackling together.
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