The inner critic said I couldn’t perform and that I fail again. The inner coach was more encouraging and said that I want this, I can do this, and this is safe
My inner coach feels like a hand on my shoulder and a voice saying, “My man fucks.”
My inner critic admitted that she was just trying to protect me. My coach, whilst being understanding of where she was coming from, made the point that by trying to protect me, her words were doing me more harm than if she said nothing at all
Critic: your dick’s not gonna work again.
Coach: that’s cos you’re in your own way. She loves it.
Critic: you’re gonna fuck it up. You’re not gonna work again.
Coach: You’ve done this heaps before man, you know exactly what your doing. Trust yourself
Critic: sex isn’t worth getting someone pregnant
Coach: you got to go for the girl. It’s possible to have sex without getting pregnant, and if it does happen I’ll be okay
Inner critic: we know the drill, you’re hard during foreplay and you will get soft right before going in.
Coach: yawn and relax, yawn and relax, you know it works even when you don’t want to, remember the bumpy car rides in the morning to school when you were young? Remember those akward boners you tried to hide with your backpack on the front? Yawn and relax, yawn yawn yawn until you feel the chillness flow through you
My inner coach is like a taller, idealistic version of myself with the utmost of confidence, good humor and strength. A guardian. My inner critic is a snivelling, smokey burnt-to-a-crisp Krampus looking thing. It lords over me, but when my inner coach is around it cowers in fear.
My inner coach just simply said: “Enjoy it!”
My inner critic stepped in and argued that what if I can’t enjoy it for long (out of fear I might lose my erection or other things), to which my inner coach swiftly, calmly and assertively responded “then enjoy it while it lasts for this time!”
Felt very sure, commanding, calm and unrestrained/free, which was liberating and reminded me to keep my thoughts simple and just focus on the moment - what is really there in reality!
My inner critic is desperate, anxious, neurotic, bitter, and looks sleep deprived. He tells me I’m screwed, I’ll never get it back.
Whereas my coach scoffs and laughs at that. He’s good humoured, fun loving, and calm. He reminds me of all the great sex I’ve had in the past, and how I really can please my partner in so many ways. I need patience and not to listen to this pathetic excuse of an inner critic. He just wants to watch me be tortured for the drama of it. He needs to be put in his place.
Firm kinda funny but fair
My inner coach is my late father. He always wanted what was best for me. He is jovial and uplifting.
When my inncer critic (me) recalls how I can’t get it up, and my partner will leave me, my inner coach would wave him off and tell me I can do this. And when dad wants to end it, my inner critic (me) falls back into place.
My inner critic was again reminding me scenes of sexual dissapointments. The coach showed and with some logic and kind words turned things around. It is surprising how these things work!
They just spoke to each other with references to feelings and sensations that body had experienced in the past. It was kinda of crazy to see how quickly my inner critic was able to launch comebacks at my inner coach.
I also came to the realisation that my inner critic is so closely entangled with my sense of self that I had barely even noticed them before
My inner cos h is there to challenge my inner critic and show the positive and potentially good things
The Inner Coach was a powerful presence of hope, confidence and reassurance… quick whit and unshaking faith he laughter and short retorts at the Inner Critic.
My inner coach is still struggling to be heard above the critic
My inner coach actually materialized and came up with a solid rebuttal. I just have to keep working on the back-and-forth because it currently doesn’t have multiple rebuttals
My inner coach was my voice and was very confident and reassuring
The Inner Critic brought up the times I’ve failed to get an erection in the past. My Inner Coach chased him away with a cane and yelled about all the times I have successfully had sex!