Critic : my own voice me, not angry just reserved in fact il slip up again.
Coach: me but confident reasonable direct with the critic.
It is me when i have been most positive in the past, during my good experiences
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I embodied my inner critic or coach whenever they were talking
He’s very matter of fact, and while he recognizes the concert of my inner critic, he reminds me that those things aren’t things to be afraid of, they’re actually not big deals at all. He’s very lighthearted, warm, with a great smile that is very comforting. He’s firm, but gentle.
He builds me up and reminds me of what I have to be confident about
It’s finally a positive voice amongst the negativity of the inner critic. It’s reminded me all the good, successful experiences, especially the recent ones that the critic conveniently leaves out
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The inner critic says that you’ve failed at this before and will fail again. The coach says that is not true, you’ve actually succeeded at this many times before and will succeed many times in the future…
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The critic says that I will not be able to satisfy a woman and will cum fast again. The coach says that it does not have to be this way even if it has happened before, that I can do it, and i can lift the pressure off my shoulders
The inner critic says it’s pathetic you need help. The inner coach said to stop taking things so seriously.
it gave me confidence and reminded me of good sexual experiences in the past
Critic: Me, but telling me that I am going to cause disappointment and hurt. Also has the ability to disconnect my mind from my sexual feelings
Coach: Me but with no reservations and a cockiness attitude.
Critic: Don’t disappoint her again.
Me: She loves me. We’ve talked about this openly. The pressures no longer on my shoulders. I can just enjoy myself again, and know she will too.
Critic: How long will she put up with you like this?
Me: We’re having more and more positive experiences. It’s getting easier. We’ve opened up a new dialog and approach to sex and we will get back to what we had AND more.
My inner critic remains my voice. It also acts by causing a physical sensation - shortness of breath and pelvic floor tightening. The coach is almost like a disembodied voice outside of me with a confidence I know I should feel. Definitely going to need to work on accepting him as he seems to good to be true.
Funnily enough I met my inner coach yesterday- but I didn’t realise it. I had really great sex with a guy with whom I had been looking forward to meeting up with again. Expectations were high but through this programme I was on the case regarding my inner critic and kept him at bay.
The sex went absolutely great - really great - we were both highly satisfied and I’ve got texts afterwards saying how good it was which is a great positive reinforcement
Now I realised the inner coach was there on my side.
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Honestly; as a huge Dylan O’Brian fan who I was introduced to me in teen wolf I picture his sarcastic character backing me up with his witty humour and comebacks. Made me laugh and felt more supported in myself
My inner critic told me that it was embarrassing to even pretend that I’d be having sex anytime soon because I’m a loner and a coward, but my inner coach reminded me of all the times I’ve thrived in social situations. He then pointed out that all my interactions could go this well if I really wanted them to.
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One said I was definitely going to lose it, the other said I’ve proved that I can keep it
Reminded me that I have a great c@ck and that my partner loves me and has proven she can be patient.
My inner critic said that I am a piece of shit. My inner cheerleader stood up for me and told my critic that he was being so mean to me and it should stop.
My inner coach reminded me of all the times I have had good sex, and said that I shouldn’t focus on a handful bad experiences that I’ve had.