My voice of self criticism manifests itself in inward thoughts, but also in my girlfriend’s voice. She’s never criticized me, but has shared her frustrations with our sex life, which has triggered my inner critic to kick into overdrive.
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Worrying, dibilitating, judging
Pessimistic, doubtful, diminishing
demeaning, worried id fuck things up more, it was my own voice
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It comes in the form of questions. What if this happens? How will I be seen if it does. What if I’m focused on these thoughts instead of being in the moment?
It’s me. My fear. It sounds like me and it wants to settle for safe to avoid risk and rejection.
Self doubt that people aren’t in to me
A hater that doesn’t want me to be happy
My own voice telling me that I won’t be able to perform and I’ll just let my partner down again.
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It’s my voice
Just the doubt I won’t perform, or fear that the women doesn’t feel hot/sexy if I can’t keep it up.
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My brain and the it is thinking sex is bad and don’t want it.
wasn’t a person, more just myself thinking to myself
Not so much a visual for me, just that feeling of dread and embarrassment/shame that i cant perform or satisfy my partner
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It was more of a feeling of anxiety - my heart quickens and my stomach aches and all I think about is failing in bed.
My own voice. Panicking, concerned about how I will be perceived if I can not get an erection. But it is self sabotaging, preparing me for what it perceives as an eventuality, which only solidifies the outcome.
Bad. Not life-ending, but bad, overthinking about every possible problem and threat. “What if it goes bad?”, “What if I’m not good enough?”, “What if she can tell I don’t have much experience?”, “What if she leaves me because of this?”… all negative questions. Not helped by the pre-questions of “will we have enough time alone”, “will I be comfortable enough?”, “will it happen and when?”, “is she ok with me doing this”… all so worried and stuck in my own thoughts…
It’s just a dark cloud over me staring down at me.
The inner critic is like an older version of me. Just calculating all the moves that I have to make in order to protect me, however it doesn’t understand that I am not who it thinks I am. I am growing and able to change .
First though is that ill fail. That ill get in my own head again.