Whispers negative thoughts. Not supporting at all, just says
you will be disappointed and disappointment to her. I’m
I am not sure the first session worked well for me because my inner critic is not some separate part of me talking in my ear, never mind another person entirely. It is me basing my expectations on past experience.
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Its me panicking and unavoidable. Just thinking about how to get harder and how embarrassing it is.
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“I’m never going to be able to penetrate”
I’m struggling to separate my inner critic doesn’t really have a specific voice or feel. When I’m about to have sex or having sex I’ve never noticed it as a thing - more just feels like numbness and just lack the arousal so am going to have to begin trying to notice it.
My inner critic was in fact, critical, focusing on the negative. Telling me to slow down, and that I wasn’t able to do it. It was somewhat hostile, negative, and not fun to be around.
It feels like a person shouting at me. The first time around it wasn’t there but every time after it was telling me I wasn’t doing it right and I was making her unhappy
My inner critic wants to set me up for failure.
It’s not so much a physical voice, its a feeling, a feeling in my head of knowing I might fail. It comes over my whole body and numbs me.
The voice I hear is mine. It’s always telling me she’s not going to enjoy having sex with you, you’re not getting the reaction you want, she’s bored. It’s telling me you better do something else and buy some time so she doesn’t notice you going limp.
It’s a voice inside my head that is telling me how things will be difficult if I don’t perform in bed. The voice tells me that if I don’t have sex, I will disappoint my partner and cause issues in this relationship.
my inner critic tells me that im going to mess up and things like that
Just a small shadow in a cape of all things telling me it’s all going to go wrong again
It’s me as a little quiet voice in my head worrying i will not be able to get as hard as usual or stay hard, and already thinking of ways to try to trick it to stay hard
A feeling of dread
My inner critic is a very blunt and loud judgmental worm in the back of my mind that finds its way to wrap itself around my brain
Like a solid voice telling me “don’t mess it up”, “now get an erection”, “this is about to get ruined” etc. it has a confidence to it like a drill sergeant saying things and it’s believable because it feels like it’s always right. The voice originated from somewhere in my head, not entirely the back of my head, not the front, somewhere in between.
A deep, persistent, almost deadpan voice in my head that often warms me, chastises me, and calls me stupid.
A screaming panicked me in my head that is constantly telling me to watch out because I’m going to fail
My inner critic is telling me “why even try to have sex?” The same thing happens every time; you don’t perform, you won’t get hard and stay hard, you’re going to have to figure out another excuse of why my thing isn’t working. “It’s stress - I don’t know what it is - I have something imbalance”. And then I’ll have to hear from my wife that I don’t think she’s attractive, every marriage needs passion, and “I just don’t understand, you won’t talk to me about it”.