Finding strength to engage when on a low ebb feels a mountain beyond reach.
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Inner coach is a sick visualization. I visualize mine as myself but maxed out strength and charisma and energy. He has a golden glowing aura, he’s ripped and sexy and speaks lovingly to the critic which I visualize as a tiny mosquito that’s super anxious and catastrophizing . The coach treats the critic with love because he knows the critic is just trying to protect us
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My inner coach was a calm, confident and happy version of myself. The same person that makes people smile and attracted the women who have wanted to have sex with me
I believe in you, stranger <3
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I also find it useful for my
Inner coach to sound like the people closest to me who rationalise my ED and make me feel normal which reduces my anxiety. They calmly tell my inner critic that yes, it might not work every time, but we can have good sex.
This exercise is really strong and it works really well for me. This is definitely one of the exercises I’m gonna keep doing because I really do recognise that my acrylic is quite powerful and even though I’ve done this several times at this point I do need to keep doing it so I need the repetition to really get me to the next step and I think that sort of where I’m at is I have the awareness now that I need to repeat it because it works.
I realized that my critic makes me overly focused on my partner and if she’s going to enjoy herself and my coach helps me come back and be mindful of my own body and my own sensations and that is the key
My inner critic loves telling me to not even both attempting to initiate intimacy because of the risks of not being able to perform well or get it up, my inner coach is great at arguing the point of not taking things seriously and justifying how I have initiated plenty of times in the past and things have gone amazingly.
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Thank you. You’re words mean much value. Laker
Landed at a difficult time.
My inner critic is too powerful in much of my life. I think I have the tendency to just give in—even though I notice differences when I’m not listening to him.
My inner critic is so strong and inextricably linked to so much of my life - in some ways pushing me to perform harder/better (outside of the bedroom).
It’s hard to shut off or listen to a contrasting voice when I have my drill sergeant barking at me.
I was reminded of his presence
My inner coach felt like a friend who was defending my character. He was so confident in his words against the critic that every sentence felt final and solid. My coach trusts that my body will do what it was made to do and believes in my ability to wield myself
This time I got the realisation that inner coach is like a buddy, but it’s just me in third person. We are giving her pleasure, together
I learn that my inner coach is more logical, confidence boosting.
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because that dude is a boss. he brought up thoughts in my head that i had not even thought of before. backed things up with evidence and told my inner critic to f off lol
Inner critic is pretty powerful, so the coach is a new voice, but it’s all stuff I know about myself to be true.
My inner coach is tiny in comparison to my inner critic, he was shouting to be heard over him. I’ve got a long way to go
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My inner critic feels smarter, having a weight of experiential evidence behind him. The coach might have all this positivity, but it’s hard to believe him right now.