My inner coach was very calm and stated facts. I’m healthy, there’s nothing wrong with my body, I’m perfectly capable of having strong erections bc the truth is I have had them before even after this issue started.
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Inner critic was a strange cartoon-like character, inner coach a wise, friendly man
I pictured laying on her bed and just all horniness leaving my body, I felt it in my back and stomach like a tightening and could feel my heart thump. The critic showing me the image and I could feel desire leave me. The coach struggled against this and could any come up with the problem being the critics fault and that I’m full capable of performing. The feeling didn’t go away but being aware of it and trying to let it go is a good start.
Inner critic just saying to me, “you didn’t get it up last time, what if you don’t this time, she’ll leave you” coach arguing rational points rather than rubbish from the critic.
My inner critic said, “It’s not going to work this time either. Your brain is broken.” My inner coach said, “It’s only somewhat damaged because YOU damaged it, critic. And we’ve healed from damage before that we thought would end us.”
My inner coach was the lost self esteem and confidence that has been suppressed by my inner critic. It was the calm mindful supportive voice/feeling.
My inner coach reminds me that my body has always responded normally to stimulation, and when things have not worked it was for a reason like fatigue or stress.
My inner coach made me feel empowered, more confident.
My inner coach acted like a firm hand on my shoulder, deflecting the negative comments of the critic. The coach believes in me and sees the efforts I’m putting in while reminding me of past victories in the form of flash memories (one particular time I was VERY hard, or a time when I was lasting as long as I wanted).
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My inner critic says “if you can’t perform she’s going to wander.” But my coach, the rational part of my mind, knows that isn’t true.
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Doing this repeatedly is really helping, my confidence is coming back, I’m coming back
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My inner coach calmed me and reminded me to enjoy myself and focus on the beauties of my partner
On this first trial, I really liked how well my inner coach and inner critic got along. I could imagine them sitting on a sofa with a couple of beers while talking about the movie they’re watching…which happens to be my life. Makes me laugh to imagine that.
My inner critic relies entirely on my insecurities. It seems silly hut it really just boiled down to “you’re not good enough” versus “you are good enough”
My inner critic relies on situations that actually haven’t ever happened and it’s just making shit up
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My inner critic relies on situations that haven’t happened it’s trying to create a situation that may not happen
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My inner coach is compassionate and funny. Self-understanding is key. I think my inner critic is a version of old me trying to help me but the wrong way
I’m familiar with my inner coach speaking up when I’ve been catastrophizing, urging me to assume the best instead of fretting over all the obscure things that could go wrong.
It was hard for me to visualize my inner coach and what he would respond
My inner coach was a compassionate character, no one in particular. It felt reassuring and motivational, telling my inner critic (me) that I have nothing wrong with me reassuring me that I can do this. It was supporting me in feeling better, soothing me but in a way that made me determined to ignore my inner critic
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