Me and my wife were teasing all night and we went to start and I was rock hard but then we went into doggy after I have move stuff off the bed and then I wanna say like 5 mins into doggy I started getting soft, I played it off cool because I like to eat but man it’s been eating at my brain for a couple of days now, I’ve got it down to maybe being that I was distracted for a sec and that’s what happened but man it makes me feel less of a man ye know boys
Totally know that feeling. Doggy is my absolute favorite position. In most cases when I had sex I came in that position and in porn I am also mostly looking for the doggy part to finish. When my ED problem started I also went soft a couple of times during doggy and it felt awful, since that was supposed to be my highlight and it turned into failure.
My approach to ED is now that I simply take it as it comes, no expectations and no pressure whatsoever. If I go soft, I go soft, that’s fine and completely normal. No one can expect a man to be fully hard all the time, no reason to feel less like a man. Just continue with hands and/or mouth, maybe get it up again, maybe not. Just have fun and relax. Gotta have a partner that is chill though…
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Going with the flow is really a game changer. I do feel guilty when I go soft. She’s likely finished several times prior using my mouth and fingers, maybe a toy too… but I’ll go soft or my knee acts up and I can’t go anymore- I feel bad and want her to finish again- I go to go back down and she says she’s too sensitive and prolly can’t finish again. I’m sure it’s true, but I still feel bad…