My wife and I have been together for about 7 years. Have had lots of great sex over that time. I started having on and off erection issues about a year ago. Would happen maybe 1 in every 4 times. Last month or so has been bad though. I can get rock hard to masturbate or when things start up between us. Even when she gives me head. But as soon as I go in, it’s like my dick decides it’s done and then I just get insanely frustrated and can’t recover. I’ve done the exercises and I’ve pretty much quit porn altogether. I want my sex life back and I don’t know what else to do…
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Literally just went through this exact thing. Very frustrating.
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I’m right here with you man. Same thing. That’s why I’m on this app.
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This is where I’m at too. It’s now happening every single time and is mega discouraging. Trying to be disciplined in doing the techniques I’m learning.
This is exactly where I’m at. Can’t get out of my own head. Hoping the app works.
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I’m in the same boat. Between putting lube on it and being gentle to get it all the way in it gets soft and the worst part is the fallout from her after
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100% the same thing so has anyone overcome this recently? Any advice or tricks? I’ve also taken cialis and viagra for this and the cialis is inconsistent but viagra works well but my nerves can even override the medicine sometimes. Anyone else have the same experience? I’ve even had success in the AM without meds but I just don’t believe there is a physical issue with me since it works in every other situation other then just before penetrating
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your body may be leaking a large amount of pre that it thinks it’s done and goes soft
I’m in the same boat. I’m here to hopefully fix this issue. It’s very frustrating.
Is that a thing? I have noticed a lot of it
And did you resolve? I’d be interested to know how. Same boat here!
Yep this is a large part of my issue as well. Only on day 3, so hoping for the best. Hoping the exercises and mindfulness start to help
I have had similar issue just can’t cum and then eventually go soft during penetration. My thoughts are it is related to either “I’m not really into it enough” or “I’m servicing and not turned on” or “relationship resentment” or “subconscious sense of lack of safety with the partner”
Remember fear and anxiety is the kryptonite to horny. The emotion is physically bound to the penis. So you have to teach yourself through exposure, being gentle, and working through anything in the relationship like resentment or anxiety that could create that subconscious response.
Stick with it . I’ve been having issues for a little over two months. Downloaded the app about a month ago( after downloading it the first time and deleting it I re-downloaded it a second time and decided to give it a fair shot ) Been having good success for about a week now . In my situation it started out with the uti . Lost my erection in the middle of sex and then literally got in my head. I also had a ton of pre-cum . Even after I was 100% back to normal medically still had issues. Urologist was quick to prescribe Viagra . For me I believe it’s 100% psychological. The Viagra did work as a mental buffer . It gave me confidence. It was a slow process back into intercourse though . The first couple of times that we were able to actually had sex again were definitely slow. Praying, Going to the gym, doing the exercises, and open conversations with my wife I feel like I am getting close to being back to normal again . The breathing and Kegel exercises help immensely. Hope this helps!