Iāve been doing the wax and wane, and it had been going well.
Now when I did it I felt like I couldnāt get beyond 70% hardness or somethingā¦ And I even really tried to use fantasy.
I had trouble stopping the inner criticā¦
Not sure what to tell myself now 
With lube and fantasy and everything and still not fully hardā¦ I think i need visual stimulationā¦ and I havenāt watched porn in a long time. So thatās not itā¦
So yeah bit worried
Iāve also quit porn and am having problems feeling it ROCK hard. Sometimes I want to go back to porn to feel I can get it that hard again.
Have you done the sensate thing. No porn jist touching your own body. You can do it on a mirror of you like
I found this helpful for dissociating visual stimulation in favour of more tactile simulation.
I actually have done this. I try to do this regularly. But i guess it doesnāt help me much for self self satifying?..
But I do watch porn 1 time a week. Mojo says that is one. Like if you plan itā¦
So I do notice that when I use it, I definitely can get rock hard.
So I just plan it for one time a week, nothing to crazy either. It does give me confidence that when Iām in bed with a woman I find attractive that I can get hard, cause that there is touch en visual stimulation.