I have anxiety and ED and masturbating to porn only makes it worse. So have stopped masturbating and watching it.
I am now doing the wax and wane and self sensate exercises on Mojo.
1 Like
What’s wax and waune
1 Like
This is a problem I’ve had. Going cold turkey really makes arousal tricky. The wax and wane does seem to be a good exercise for it though.
1 Like
Congratulations! I am very similar and I’ve been off porn for almost 100 days. I’ve had a few slip ups, but got right back on the wagon without being too hard on myself. You’re right the wax and wane and the self-sensate activities have been incredibly helpful. I’ve discovered that with porn and related habits all my energy and focus was external and visually overstimulating. By refocusing inwards to my body, my sensations, and that sexual energy inside of me that I had totally lost, I’ve started to have success with ED, better erections, and sex is starting to be fun again. It sucked at first, but I feel like I’m slowly rewiring my entire system to what it used to be. There is hope!
1 Like
There’s always a risk when we start to treat our junk like our own personal entertainment system, and keep on spamming the arousal button. It literally does wear out - the body can’t keep going into that mode at the same level, so starts to adapt. It’s like owning a Ferrari and using it to drive down to the store each day… you’re running down a work of art. There’s a reason they used to call it self-abuse. :-D. Masturbation is cool as a make-do or self-maintenance, but we can’t risk letting it replace real sex if that’s available.
1 Like
Maybe watching porn together is better. At least then you can also enjoy your partners arousal
1 Like
That’s a good suggestion but my lady isn’t interested in sex let alone porn.
So I am dealing with my own self - care.
1 Like
Sadly real sex is unavailable. ):
I like the Ferrari analogy:)
That’s very encouraging. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I wish you every success.
I agree. It has certainly helped me.
Wax and wane is repeatedly getting your cock hard and letting it go soft without actually cumming.
I think it is similar to the stop start technique.
Good luck. I’m very fortunate my wife is up for pushing a few boundaries and it seems to have reduced my ED anxiety a little.