Voice in my head

I’m 18 and since an incredibly young age I’ve been aware of sex and porn and was highly addicted. I had only feared it effecting my performance around 15, I have since quit and rarely masturbate. Regardless, my first sexual experience was with my now girlfriend and I was beyond blacked out the only thing I remember was being hard enough to penetrate and then being immediately soft. I feel like this is now effecting my confidence. I’m also well aware I can be hard and maintain an erection because once we get started I could have sex for hours and multiple rounds. But now I am worried that I will not stay hard long enough to have sex, I get in my head once it really comes to having sex. It’s as if there is a voice in the back of my head telling me that I won’t stay hard enough to initiate sex, and I get the occasional confidence that I can but when I go to grab the condom it all seems to go away.

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Hey man I’m 19 and can relate to your struggles. It’s really tough to get out of your own head in those situations and it’s happened to me a handful of times as well. I know that this “program” or whatever you wanna call it thinks porn isn’t much of a factor but everyone who’s actually struggling with this issue does. I think it’s best to cut out completely and just focus on yourself. I stopped watching porn a little over a week ago and think it’s been a good step. Everyone’s different but from what I’ve seen on here most would probably agree.

yh me too same problem, we need to try else it gets worse. mine started at 18 & 22 now. porn is a problem we need to try and stop

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Thanks for the reply. I’ve watched no porn in such a long time. I think it’s just deep rooted in my brain and is still partially effecting me. I really hope this all can help me.

It’s not as hard as you think man, what i honestly found easiest was quitting cold turkey. And any time I had the urge I’d find something to do weather it was way or watch a show or even work out just whatever I could to get my mind off of it. Another thing that seriously helped was finding someone I truly cared about and that cared about me and I promised them to stop.

This has happened to me too. I’m 28 and I’ve had this problem with 2 of my 3 sexual partners. My confidence has been shut down and it’s hard for me to get out of my head and into my body. However, I’m hopeful that this will change. My partner has help me a lot as well as the sessions about performance anxiety. Also knowing that I’m not the only one helps me a lot. Wish you the best.