There are times when everything is working, Iām relaxed and all systems go. Then there are times when, things are working during foreplay and bam, my mind says hold up and the spiral begins. Is it going to work? What if it doesnāt work? What if I lose it instead of staying in moment? It really is the greatest mind you know what. Then when I think about it, I say to myself, well how weāre you feeling this am or today. Stressed and anxious. And there in lies the problem. However, it was never like that. Itās especially worse if for instance we havenāt had sex in a while. Itās like ok, you worked last time donāt let me down. Once things work, confidence is up and Iām ready to go. I am rambling here. Just wondering if anyone se experience same thing. Just want to go back to the way it was and not be in my mind so much and overthink.
This sounds exactly my situation. Iām often aroused. Think about having sex and look forward to it- start off by being ok (most of the time) but then my mind starts going into a spiral and I start thinking āoh shit itās going to happen, itās happeningā and then it happens! There have been times when Iāve managed to stay on track and block out these thoughts and was like a porn star in the sack- canāt for the life of me work out how to stay in the moment and how to avoid falling down the well of spiralling thoughts. We always used to manage to get it back at some point- yesterday was the first time it didnāt happen, so iāve signed up for this to see if it will help. Im
Under a bit a pressure at the moment as well because we need to have sex at a certain times- this is is making it worse- the pressure