Hey community, me and the wife have been trying to conceive for a few months now but for the past 2 years my libido has been very low around her. I have erection issues which I think has been caused by issues in our marriage the past few years. We said we want to stick together and get through it and since have improved on our communication and other aspects of the relationship. We’ve gone almost 2 years without having sex but now want a family but I still struggle with getting an erection and feeling aroused with her. I have had test done to ensure it’s no medical problems and it’s fine that side. Has anyone experienced this and what would they recommend for a couple trying to conceive?
Im going through the same thing right now, and its really challenging. We are looking at some alternative ways to get pregnant (artificial insemination, etc) just to overcome the stress and impracticality of the sex part. Being comfortable with sex will be a long term thing, but we have a short window in which to get pregnant based on our ages, so we are are forging ahead and that has helped relieved some of the shame and stress around the bad sex.
Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best in your journey and hope you get the end result you are looking for. Similar to us, we are 36 & 37 and our window of opportunity is shortening. Can I ask how you got started with the artificial way of the process? Did you go via doctor or straight to a fertility clinic ? We are considering this but don’t know where to start.