My girlfriend and I have been together for just about 4 years and I never had an issue getting or maintaining an erection with her. A couple months ago, we were drinking and we came back and I was unable to get hard. She was upset, but understanding.
Since then, almost every single time we start getting intimate, my thoughts immediately start racing to “what if I can’t get or stay hard this time” which instantly kills any feelings I have. The more times this happens and the longer it goes on, the more my girlfriend feels it’s her fault which drives me crazy because I don’t want to lose her over this. The only time I’ve had success recently was thankfully for our anniversary. I snuck out of the room to put on a cock ring and force myself to get hard through the anxiety. It took between 5-10 minutes to shake the anxiety before I could get hard and walk back into the room. Every guy who has been going through this knows that not being able to get an erection hurts your self esteem on many levels.
This is my first day using this app, but already it’s helped me realize that it’s not just me and I’m not alone in this psychological driven ED. I really hope that this helps so I can get back to being in the moment