Even after some psychological realizations (which Mojo helped me discover) that have had a positive impact on the ways I view sex, I still struggle to hold an erection with a condom on. My partner is a trooper for putting up with me struggling of course but I want to please her better without having to worry about using a condom to do so when it’s a necessary thing to use in our sex life (for various medical reasons she has thatI won’t get into). Is anybody else struggling with staying/getting hard using a condom? Am I alone in this? My wife tells me it’s not as common for men my age to be having this problem as bad.
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I had major issues with this from the age of 16.
The anxiety in my mind that “I’m going to have to stop the momentum of this moment to get the condom on…. I hope I can stay hard enough to continue”
It ruined my mind set and I was never present from the start.
What helped me was a few things:
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practicing on my own getting a condom on and mastubating without porn using a condom. Helped my mind to focus on sensations
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Asking my partner if we could have sessions without penetration (so my mind was at ease that the intimacy would never reach point of penetration so my mind could relax)
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Asking my partner to help getting in on. I asked her to like keep kissing me during, kiss my neck, hold me from behind rub my thighs etc.
I hope this helps mate, but let’s be clear….
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
It’s common, age is irrelevant with this issue. The bottom line for me was communication with my partner at the time so there was a level of empathy and understanding 
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I love this. You’re spot on. Soo many ppl put soo mush pressure on themselves. I do it too. I know I’m below avg size. I also have PED - do I’m already at 2 strikes before I get my pants off… I learned 2 things: I got good at teasing and creating a need for release and I got good at eating pussy. With those 2 things I feel I’m leveling the playing field at least a bit.
I also know that with or without a hardon- my gf will fall asleep in my arms a spent, sweaty mess. And she’s 
satisfied with that.
