I have recently met a woman and we get on really well. It’s leading towards the first time we are going to be sexual with one another.
I have suffered with Performance Anxiety ED on and off all my life. I’m 39 Male and divorced last year.
I’m torn whether to say anything about it, as this might be a mood killer or to just practise all the techniques I’ve learnt here and see what happens with a what will be, will be kinda approach.
I really like this girl and I am anxious that I could f this up. Any thoughts or tips welcomed
My advice is to be honest but relaxed about it so they don’t stress and feel like they’ve done something wrong and even more importantly they don’t stress because you’re stressed (easier said than done I know)
Usually if things aren’t working the first time (which for me is more likely since the first time usually after a few drinks - which doesn’t help) I just say something like “sometimes I struggle after a few, but don’t worry I’ll take care of you” and then smirk and carry on making out and doing oral or whatever the makes sense given the mood - I’ve never had a negative reaction to this and since the pressure is taken off this helps me relax and get going again sooner rather than later
Just try to stay positive and in the moment even if things take a turn… Hope this helps
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