mid 20s dude. I was having problems getting hard while in a new relationship bc I was anxious I wouldn’t live up to her past sexual partners. Once we talked about it together and that our own physical securities or other people, didn’t matter, we both could lose the head games.
I had a few times where I couldn’t get up or just went soft but now that we’ve been open and had some great experiences, I am overcoming the problem. Feels so freeing to be intimate and fully in the moment.
It is not a linear progression though.
Be patient, be open, and focus on loving each other rather on your own satisfaction.