Well it happened again. Third time now with the same person. Things are going great during oral but as soon as we go to fuck I lose it. We gave it several tries, I don’t know how she can be so understanding when I’m so frustrated. What makes it all the more frustrating is if I’m not dealing with losing my erection or not being able to cum I cum too fast. There’s no in between where things actually go well and I stay hard and last a decent amount of time. And these issues kinda cake out of nowhere and I don’t understand why
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If things are going great during oral, consider staying with it. I wish I was in your shoes!
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Hey buddy I’m just like you p this is like frustrating as f*** and my old ladies depending on me and that peer pressure my penis can’t handle I feel just like you do and I don’t know what to do have you found out anything that works
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Now I’m still in the same position as you. Maybe worse? I can’t fully feel her giving me a blowjob. Like I love watching her and she puts in a hell of an effort but I don’t feel fully erect. A little numb. When we go for penetrative sex I get a little soft and then I’m limp. Work on your mental game and also, I’ve heard guys giving their girl a long massage. Make foreplay last longer and see if that helps. Maybe put on music or a song you enjoy? Try to stimulate your mind away from any thoughts….
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It’s really great that you’ve got a partner who is so understanding – make the most of this! I suspect part of your frustration might mean that you’re criticizing yourself a lot, and would encourage you to do either the inner critic exercises or some meditations. Remember: it takes time to get out of this rut, so be patient with yourself and play the long game.
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Just oral doesn’t really satisfy my partner(s) tho 
Not so far unfortunately but I’ve only been using this a week, I’m hoping eventually it gets better