Hey, I’ve struggled to cum during sex for 15 yrs. I can cum when I masturbate. When I have sex, I can go for 30 mins or more. In the beginning, it was awesome because the partners I had sex with got worn out and fully pleasured. Over time, it wasn’t great when I got into a lifelong relationship. To my partner, it was frustrating. A sign that I wasn’t really into it. I don’t believe that is it at all.
I don’t know what to do.
Honesty i have had the same issue except I don’t usually even when I masturbae. Idk I just get bored or disinterested in it before I can even get to that point it’s weird. Like I’m desensitized to it even tho the drive is there beforehand….
I struggle to sometimes. If I’m in the moment I can, especially if not using condoms. Probably 50-60% of the time I need to finish myself and it can take a long time. Sometimes I need to visualise being with someone else.
Wow, that’s tough man. Have you looked into it? Are you doing anything to help (talk therapy, stuff on mojo, etc)?
I can use all the ideas I can get🤞🏾
Also sending positive vibes your way man🙌🏾 Wishing this improves for you sooner rather than later
Yeah, I can really relate to the part where you have to visualize being with someone else. I often think of different porn scenes.
One thing I’ve noticed is I tend to masturbate, while watching porn, often. I’m wondering if my cum level is too low to do it during sex (even when I masturbate 2 days back to back, that 2nd day takes me a while to cum)