Can’t Cum/Porn Use

⏳ Delayed ejaculation
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Hey guys, I want to know if anyone else is going through what I am because it often feels like I’m alone.

So many of the posts on these apps focus on cumming too early, but I have the opposite problem. Even when I get hard (which I can’t always do), I can’t cum. Not even close. It’s happened all my life, ever since my first gf in high school (I’m 28 now).

I think it’s related to getting hooked on masturbating to porn at a young age (4th or 5th grade). But I also feel alone in that too because I don’t consider myself a porn “addict” in a traditional sense. I’ve never spent hours on end watching it, and I’ve never felt the need to watch progressively more intense and messed up stuff. It’s all very vanilla and bland, and I only watch for the time it takes to cum.

But that said, I know it’s affecting my sex life. I feel like I’ve trained my body and mind sooo well to only cum in this one specific way. Almost two decades of training.

What can I do? Does anyone else relate?

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Yeh this happens to me sometimes too. I do wonder that I’m maybe so focussed on that part though that I’m not as present in the act and enjoying it as much as I should if I were just focussing on having fun. If so I reckon it would be a lot quicker and so I’m going to try that instead of just focussing on the finishing line :facepunch:t2:

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I dont think just because you stick to vanilla stuff etc that it doesnt make you an addict. I guess the question for you to ask yourself is rhat if you were to take a break from porn for a week or 2, would you be able to and if you were, would you feel like your missing out or have any negative emotions?