I have had ED issues for as long as I can remember and I am 32. My fiancé and I have had a very minimal sex life and recently it has been basically nonexistent. This has caused incredible stress for both of us and she very well may leave me. I want to build a family with her but obviously it is impossible for her to feel the same way. I am doing everything I can (meds, urologist, therapist, no porn) to try to get rid of these ED issues and anxiety. Any advice is greatly appreciated as I try to get to the root cause of all of this and finally break free.
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It is hard to give advice without specifics. I can only say that when you work on yourself, you will see improvement, but it may take time. Don’t give up.
I struggle with the same thing and have tried some of the same things. When I think we are going to get intimate I think I will ask if she is ok with us doing everything but holding off on penetration. it seems that I can get and stay hard right up until that so I think maybe one time where we both really enjoy intimacy with no pressure on me may be a real confidence builder
I completely agree with that statement. I just need something to give me a boost to get there. I am feeling a little better with each day but not getting a ton of support from my fiancé but I can’t point this at her. I hope I can build on this confidence
Have you spoken to her about this? I had similar issues (especially when drinking) but was honest about it and said that this happened sometimes with me… I made sure I was clear that I still planned to enjoy their body when I was getting intimate with a new girl and doing this really reduced the anxiety since I had less fear of disappointing them