So I was with my new GF last night and we made out for a while with most of our clothes off. We didn’t have sex as I couldn’t stay long as I had work the next day and she was totally fine with that. But I couldn’t stay long get aroused kissing and cuddling with her.
While I knew I couldn’t stay (maybe I gave myself that excuse) and she was the one who said just to come up to make out, but I couldn’t get turned on. I enjoyed kissing her and felt relatively in the moment but just couldn’t get hard from doing it.
Maybe still wearing my trousers didn’t help or knowing I was going didn’t help, but I thought I’d feel more. I’m frustrated as I really like this girl and want things to continue.
For certain I need to do more mindful/directed masturbation + self Sensate but worried it’s going to take too long for it to work and I lose her. Didn’t sleep well thinking about.
Really need help, has anyone else been in this position, am I being hard on myself as I did go up with her at least and should I be worried I’m gonna lose her. Please help