Hey guys,
At the beginning of our relationship I immediately had erection issues which fucking destroyed me and it really impacts her.
Since then it has been approximately a month and most of the time we have really good (if not quick) sex but sometimes I just lose the erection.
It happened this morning and I know that it really affects her due to self consciousness issues.
I know it’s not an issue with my attraction to her because when I am not in my head I am walking around with an erection 24/7 with her touching and kissing me.
I think partly I want her to be more bold and explorative with me in the bedroom and I find that now this has become a thing I’m always asking her if she wants me to go down or her or asking her to touch me. Obviously it’s important to ask but I think during sex it sets me into overthinking mode.
I think this morning she was on top and I started thinking shit I haven’t cum yet that isn’t normal. I then asked her if she wanted me to go on top and we rolled over and I felt myself losing my erection. I then asked her if I could eat her out but she realises I had lost my erection and obviously began to feel quite self conscious.
I know it will get better it just feels so fucking hard and shit man
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Dude I couldn’t relate more, I’m going through the same thing. New to a relationship, find her totally attractive, and can’t even get it working to have sex with her. She gets self conscious as well which affects me because then I feel like it’s my fault. I haven’t found a solution as I’m just now getting into this app and therapy, but just wanted to reply and let you know you’re not alone and I know we will be able to fix our problems.
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Hey guys I’m sorry to hear this. I’ve definitely experienced something similar.
One thing that has helped me is breath work. In addition to plenty of foreplay, focus not on your self critique and negative thoughts but instead on simply mindfully breathing in and out. Do this whilst you’re cuddling your partner and having foreplay.
In my experience, this helps to conquer two birds with one stone: the negative thoughts do their thing then leave AND you focus more on nothing but you and your partner enjoying each others’ company.
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Hi Gents , we have this !!
I have been celibate for 3 years due to heartbreak and focusing on myself . I met an amazing woman and havnt been able to have sex with her for 2 months . Either I ejaculate prematurely or I can’t get an erection due to worries. It’s really been difficult and there’s always the fear of her not being understanding but we will make it through this .
I’ve been using the app for about 2 weeks now , it’s too soon to say whether or not it is helping as of yet