I Need a Word with someone that has a problem similar to mine

🍆 Erection issues
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Hi, I’m 22 y.o and never had problem with my erections, as a month ago i had my first real gf in what I consider a serious relationship, first time having sex in general and my penis will not get hard in foreplay and during penetration… it’s destroying me and it’s in my mind every single second since when happened (almost 4 weeks ago), even during masturbation I can’t get an erection since I’m always trying to make sure to have one, it’s almost all I think, even when I get random erections during the day or in the morning I can only think about that episode, how can i get out, i feel not a man and worthless, some suggestions from people in a situation similar to mine may help, thanks you so much in advance.

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Try the mental exercises on here, they will explain it. You’re anxious and in your head and need to relax to let your body function normally. The breathing exercises help with that, plus the explanation of the inner critic really helped me to quiet that critical voice. I had a similar experience, my first time I couldn’t get an erection and it really bothered me. The girl was supportive/understanding and with time everything worked properly. If it helps, what you are describing is very, very common and there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re young and you’re in the right place to get help and I’m sure you’ll fix this!

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It sounds like you’re very much in your head and putting way too much pressure on yourself! Take a breath, let it go, it will get better, and try some of the exercises here. They helped me realize how in my head I was and how much pressure I had been putting on myself. You’ve got this, good luck!

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Same exact thing happened to me , it’s just the fight of flight , I would say out your self in more of those situations , and realise it’s not that bad , you can’t out think this problem you have to action take. Also yeah realise your thought don’t have power over you just be aware of the negative one and not identify with them , listen to them what are they saying and then just smile and laugh at them.