Long story short, dated this girl for a few months, we took a couple month break and got back together and have been seeing each other for another couple months. I’m mad about this girl and find her so sexually attractive, but I’ve been having issues with ed and now they seem to be getting worse and it’s at the point where I know she’s had enough. I’m so anxious about it and my mind always wonders to that when we start anything intimate and then I lose my erection.
Anyone got any good tips on how to stop the mind going there?
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In the exact same position. Hard to comment as don’t know what’s going through your mind at the time. Although, it’s important to ensure you’re spending quality time with your partner (as this will help you to bond and feel happier around each other) and understanding what stimulates you both sexually. I personally find if I’ve had a good evening out with my girlfriend and we’re getting on like a house on fire, my mind doesn’t wander so much. Another thing I’d recommend is spending more time with each other undressed, but without necessarily doing anything sexual. For example, just watching a film together in your underwear. You could even try some other things together which aren’t sex. This will help you to feel more comfortable around each other and hopefully make the thought of having sex less daunting. Just some quick thoughts but hope those help!
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Im no expert on controlling mind and I was on the same boat as you with the sex life. I cant tell you what to do but I’ll tell you what I did.
I went on ED med, sildenafil or Tadalafil to get my confidence up whilst figuring out the problem. The trick is to not fully rely on the meds and to strike a balance between natural erection and med induced erections all whilst you try to find a solution for your problems.
I didn’t have much time as I was slowly losing the girl.
I hope you will figure it out
Good luck!