Because on my issues with hookups I’m starting to see sex as a negative or scary thing. I think of it as dangerous or debilitating. I just want to be able to find a hook up and have good sex and feel confident at the end of it
This about ED or potential for STI’s? Perhaps educate yourself as much as you can on the latter, try to be confident in how you want to approach sex so you’re not pressured or stressed. This won’t solve everything immediately, but at least it might serve to help in 50% of the challenge.
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Don’t let yourself go there…it’s TOXIC! My head got in the way of good sex a couple DECADES ago and I finally gave up! Don’t give up! It started with a couple “don’t worry, it happens to everyone” hookups, then I found it nearly impossible to penetrate…blow jobs were still fine but even they were eventually affected. Finally, I gave up entirely, killing it with only the morning erection and raunchier and raunchier porn and toys. STIs were also working against my brain as I enjoy my good health and in a random hookup you never know what you are going to get. Today…well, I’m here, that is a start (though this is not the most gay-welcoming site) but I’m here for now. I have changed my focus on me, what can I do to be more comfortable in my skin. I am working on my hot dad bod, and not entertaining twinks that will snub me and make me doubt myself. I also take time to appreciate how good I’m looking (not a narcissist whatsoever) instead of how far I have to go and have started prep and doxy prep to help combat my fears of sti’s. I find regular FWB(s), who are open and honest can also increase the pleasure as you can relax more, know what each other likes and relax in front of each other. I am also learning to stop focusing on what I am doing but how I can make my partner feel… if I’m not getting hard, fine, move on to something else like maybe eating their ass…and I will be hard without even thinking about it. Get yourself in a good place, focus on what you can do for them and remove mental obstacles about sti’s and such buy using preventative measures…relax and breath… don’t miss out on sex in the hottest years of your life!
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