Hi guys - I recently spoke to a new partner about my ED issues (we’ve had sex 3 times with varying levels of success). She was really supportive.
I’m worried that now that we’ve talked about it, I’ll spectate even more or feel more pressure. Anyone have advice for navigating the next steps/how to approach sex without being in your head, after you’ve talked to your partner
About ED? Thanks in advance!
I suppose it depends how she reacted - if she’s understanding about the situation and not building up hopes too high, that can take pressure off you which can actually help
like the previous comment, it’s better that you’ve opened up about it rather than keeping it in. She will hopefully be more supporting and understanding, moreso as you’ve been open and transparent about it, and hopefully this place (MOJO) can help.
I’m with a new partner and facing the same. Had sex twice, first kind of fine, the second was bad. I’ll talk to her and gonna be open about it as I think if I don’t, things aren’t gonna get better. And also worrying that after that, I’ll be even more in my head than before anticipating when will be the moment to try and have sex again
Yup I hear you. I still think it’s best to have said it and got it out - like after a couple times it’s better to address it than ignore it. Lean into whatever pressure relief you can get from her knowing, and make best efforts from
There what else can you do. And keep being communicative with the girl no matter how it goes, she’ll Probabaly be appreciative of that. Best wishes bro 
Thanks bro, appreciate that
I spoke to my partner too and she’s been amazing. I’ve got in my head and it’s not worked a few times so I’ve been losing sleep worrying about it. Definitely worth communicating though so she knows that it’s not her.