Hello. I just started dating this girl about 3 months ago and she is the first girlfriend and sex partner I’ve ever had in my life. Unfortunately I suffer from ED occasionally and I’ll go limp halfway through getting intimate. It feels so wrong because I am in my early twenties and I truly love this girl and am so passionate about her and she’s very pretty, which is why it’s so confusing to me why I’m suffering from ED. I tried talking to her about it and stress that a lot of men have issues occasionally but she doesn’t understand at all and thinks it’s because I am not attracted to her. Sex used to be fun and something I wouldn’t think about twice but now I wonder about my erection strength every time we have sex and now rarely find myself horny which really scares me. My sex drive has also decreased drastically as well and sex just seems like a task where I hope I can stay hard rather then something I crave. If anyone has suffered close to the same issues and mojo has helped them please let me know. Or if you have any advice please let me know as well. I can’t talk to anyone about this in person because it’s so embarrassing and I don’t want to lose this girl I actually really love her.
I was in the same situation as you 25 years ago. My first girlfriend, which now is my wife. The first couple of months I suffered severe ED, I was unable to penetrate before loosing errection, and back then I didn’t have any app or anyone to talk to - I was afraid I had a physical issue. From what I can remember, I stayed away from masturbating and was really open with her about my problem. We did thread lightly, she was luckily understanding but for me it was a horrible and scary experience I could not talk to anyone about. Eventually it worked, partly because I thought a lot about sex but did not masturbate, eventually it felt like I was about to explode. Once it worked it’s been good for a couple of decades+. But because I have a tendency to get caught up in my own thoughts it started happening again recently and I was not able change the mindset. I’m so glad I found this app. Now that I know it it a common issue and not that I am impotent, it was a lot easier to break out. I showed my wife the fight or flight problem and she understood it. This made it a lot easier for me to fix it this time around. I will keep working on it this time so I can become really confident over time. Maybe you should show it to your girlfriend so she understand this has nothing to do with her. She might be a bit more patient then. Wish you best of luck.
Hi Early 40s and married ! So I do understand it’s odd as hell when you do have this erectile problems I have exactly same problem as you !
I have erection when time it comes to penetrate , couple of frictions and get soft or during foreplay not getting hard ! Heart start racing like horse race in both situations !
I tried to speak to my wife, but she doesn’t understand me, just blaming oh like you never had problem always where rock hard and now you’re having a limp ! I have double stress ,being not staying hard and we are trying for a baby !
In your situation try to talk with her outside give a try !
It’s very difficult to being alone and it’s going worse if you’re alone yourself trying to sort it this problem ! You need a support !
I am trying to do the same, in Mojo you’re not alone ! Where are here to sort it out our troubles and back each other back ! Stay Motivate at Mojo Brotherhood !
Same thing happened to me. Got my first serious girlfriend when I was 22. I had erection problems. I’d go soft halfway (especially in cowgirl).
I dated this girl for 5 years. My erections had ups and downs. She never understood the downs. She always took it personally as a sign I wasn’t attracted to her. This in turn put a lot of pressure on me. It made sex stressful. I’d be worrying about my erections while having sex. Spoiler alert there is no better way to lose your erection than by worrying about your erection.
I don’t have a solution for you. I’ve tried Cialis without telling her. It was great and gave me a lot of confidence. But I get horrible back pain from it. And it’s really not a long term solution.
I think the best thing you can do is be transparent with her about it. Ask for her to be understanding of your issue.
At the end of the day there’s so many ways to have fun in bed even without an erection.