I’m a 17 y/o and have been struggling with my ED for about 6 months now and it’s horrible i was able to find some mojo for about the last 3 months but just started to struggle with it again last week I’m able to get a little blood flow down there but whenever things start i start strong but then start to loose it half way through. Before you say i may not be interested i’ve been with this girl for 3 years and she is the loml everyday she gets more prettier and it makes me upset and insecure i can’t enjoy with her. I haven’t been to the doctor yet they won’t take being as i’m under the age to go to a urologist. I feel very alone in this struggle but wanted to make a post to see if anyone had similar stories.
Not in the same situation, but just want to say you can get better. Don’t lose hope; your journey is just starting!
@surprised-gold-owl When you lose your erection, do you try other activities like orally stimulating her? Or nipple play? Sometimes, it can help to shift attention away from your penis. It’s normal for erections to come and go. You’re not alone in this. We’re here to support you.
You guys don’t understand how good it feels to talk about this it is so scary thank you guys for responding going to the doctor soon for anxiety but i think maybe focusing on foreplay more could help!
In one of the recorded therapy sessions, the therapist says that penetrative sex should be considered just one form of sex. If your partner likes oral or manual, freaking switch over to that. If you’re anything like me, that is just about as enjoyable as penis in vagina sex, and it will take your mind off your penis. And who knows, while you are focused on your partner you might even get a boner!
You’re welcome @surprised-gold-owl We’re all in this together. Keep us posted about your progress.
Losing your erection midway isn’t unusual at all. It can totally come back if you relax and stay in the moment (maybe moving the focus from your dick but staying tuned in to your sensations and your partner to reignite a spark). We all operate differently, but there are so many expectations of what we “should” be and how our bodies “should” act. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You’ve discovered you’re not alone and that makes a big difference.
I am 17 y/o and I have been struggling with ED for around a year now.
When I’m with a girl I can get about half way then it won’t get more blood. And when it does it only sticks around for about 30 seconds.
Echoing the good positive encouragement from here. I hope it goes well for you.
Go and see your doctor and tell them how you feel, don’t suffer in silence, it will do more harm than especially your 17 years old. Also keep mojo up to see what triggers you.
Keep working though this app bro. Not sure where you are in your journey but don’t give up. Have patience and work through the exercises.
I’m sure you’ve chosen wisely and the love of your life will understand and work this through with you. If you’re 3 years in there’s obviously a lot more than sex holding you two together
I don’t have the same issue exactly, but just want you to know that coming here to this supportive community could be a really positive step - as is tackling this at 17 and not brushing it aside in the hope it’ll just go away. I’m sure others will be able to offer more wisdom or perhaps share their experiences with you. I wish you all the best.
@advanced-lavender-gayal Well done for Finding this app and starting to tackle this. I know it can take a lot of courage to do this, and determination to resolve, so I hope you find some of the other comments helpful. All the best of luck to you.
I am a 30 year old male who was single for over 6 years. Unfortunately frequently used porn and masturbation multiple times a day. I am now engaged to the most beautiful woman ever. She is my everything. However, we both are overweight and she began to focus on weight loss and improving her health. For whatever reason, I didn’t follow suit and allowed the issue to remain. I got going about 6 months after her. It’s been another 6 months and I am down 46 pounds. However, our relationship is on the border of collapse as she voiced not being happy with our sex life amongst a few other things that I have worked on and she has voiced seeing the change. However, sex is very important to her and I am having ED. I tried sedenfil but did not help. I am awaiting for Tadafil to take daily to help. However, she is in this stage where she isn’t sure what she wants right now and so our affection and such is limited. We have open communication and she assures me she loves me and just wants us to take things day by day and basically to keep an eye on how she feels and how I am working to resolve my personal issues for the betterment of this relationship. I have had lots of anxiety and depression lately, which has lead to me kind of looking over her shoulder a little when texting family and also getting down and talking abiut how I can lose her and will be devastating and such which I am afraid will push her way and doesn’t help. I want to be confident again and be able to satisfy her every need.
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half now, we’ve tried to get intimate several times. I understand your pain and the feelings of shame and guilt that come with what’s happening. I’m so sorry dude but I promise you you’re in the right place, the fact that you’re looking in places like for help is great. Maybe revisit some old sessions to relearn some stuff? Keep it fresh in your mind. We can do all do this, we’ll be scared together brother, keep it up
Update: third day of using this app and i have found a slight new confidence and determination. I am identifying a lot of stressors that affect our relationship and we discussed them. Today, she is spending time with her parents ahead kf the 4th and i will be joining with my parents later on. I have been putting together somw things that will eliminate stressors such as individual clothing hampers for laundry so we can wash and already have the laundry seperated and hang them. Which, also will help in gwtting our kids to put their clothing away instead of on our floor. I also got a container for their toys that they litter our living room with and placed them there. They will now have to get them from there and put them back. I am proud to feel i have the confidence to be able to lead her and be strong while we are at a low point. I hope the hard work pays off and we recover. If not, its still good for me to have this epiphany.
Hey @vital-beige-centipede So glad that you posted an update and are taking things forward in such a positive way. I sometimes wonder about other people’s progress so this was good to read. I hope you are finding support here, whether through other people’s comments or from the modules. I definitely feel more confident about getting past my own issues after coming back to this app and going through the phases. Good for you mate, for taking steps to be in control of your own life - it sounds like you’ve had a lot to deal with and knowing that things can change can be so important. Good luck going forward!
Now,the struggle is avoiding negative thinking and letting the idea of if the relationship will rebound make me depressed.
@vital-beige-centipede Yes that’s a tricky one. Does taking it day by day help? Or even one small step forward within an otherwise bad day? That’s still a victory, and still moving forward.
I’m not pretending that’s easy though. For the last few weeks it’s been going round and round my head that my partner might have lost patience or lost interest and the more I do the less she has to try. BUT I’ve been here before and it usually passes that stage in time and then things can get back on track. With whatever ED quirk we still have to work around.
I hope it just turns out to be a blip for you. Then things get better and you can look back on this a just (just!) a bump in the road. And, I mean losing all that weight for start - that’s a major achievement in itself. Congratulations for all that taking control and will power. Wow.