Background: intermittent erection issues from performance anxiety. Self conscious about penis size (erection fine (6" but a little thin), but flaccid is incredibly small ~2").
Basically if I have an issue initially, i get in my head compounding with not wanting anyone to see my unerect penis. i find it really hard to refocus.
The spectatoring and engineering your arousal modules really spoke to me. Spectatoring as when an issue happens i am so focused on my dick and how much blood i have that i find it hard to relax into the moment.
Engineering your arousal as i do find it hard to say ‘i need some foreplay’ when i am not ready to go, it feels like a buzz kill to say ‘I need some kissing, some touching on thigh’ etc.
Anyway interested in anyones thoughts and techniques in these areas.
Same. I’m not hung like a mule either….
PED. Death grip. Porn user…
This morning I was able to focus on the pretty girl in front of me and we went at it for 15ish minutes! I was 70% and it felt good. she loves her feet played with as well as her clit touched during sex. I’m happy to oblige her both. I focused on the sounds she makes and her desperate breathing. I almost came. That woulda been outstanding!!!
However I’ll take what I can get at this point.
My gf knows all about my issue and we’ve talked openly about it. She knows I need lots of foreplay. She likes a lot as well. She loves my oral and finger games. She says if we have sex after 3-4 O’s from oral/fingers it’s
Pure icing on the cake. One thing I noticed this morning is- it was light and I really enjoyed her facial expressions as well as looking at her sexy body as I thrusted into her. I think that really helped!
Good luck fellas!!