Hi - ok, this is probably my deepest insecurity and the thing that I think holds me back the most. So my penis is definitely on the smaller sideā¦itās certainly not the smallest penis in the world, but Iām not exaggerating when I say Iām sure itās below average. Even though no one has specifically commented on it, I have INTENSE insecurity that I wonāt be enough, and that thereās nothing I can do to have penetrative sex. This in my opinion has been the main catalyst for my erectile issues when Iāve been with womenā¦I get terrified that my full boner wonāt be enough to please them, so my body automatically doesnāt let me get a boner in the first place so we donāt even have to get to that point. Iām scared to have a full erection in front of someone because I donāt want them to see me and feel like Iām not enough
Has anyone dealt with this? If so, how have you worked to get over these body insecurities? Itās something I think about WAY too much, and I would really like to get to a place where Iām comfortable enough with someone to be open about itā¦hopefully then Iāll be able to get an erection in front of them and be content with how I look
I also donāt know if anyone has any advice for if I ever do get to that point, the best methods for sex with a small penis. Any recommended positions?
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I understandā¦ I understandā¦
Unless you have a micropenis you should be fine. 4 inches and above is good enough for a girl. But also make sure your partner also cums as that will make her satisfied. Dont show you are anxious about it as that will make the issue worse.
Thank you for posting this. Man, to say I understand is an understatement. I posted a new topic about this earlier hoping to get some feedback as well. Iām average sized. but it doesnāt matter. I think about my dick size all the time. Iām constantly checking bulges on other dudes and shaming myself for being smaller than whatever I decide theyāre packingā¦which Iām sure has no basis in reality. Itās like self-torture. My partner assures me Iām not small, but I donāt believe it. Itās like I canāt convince myself that I could actually satisfy anyoneā¦ever. Iāve somehow made myself believe Iām less of a person because I donāt have a big dick. Itās such a mind-fuck. I donāt have any sage advice, but know you arenāt alone. And the messages we get from TV, social media, etc. donāt help. Thereās always a small dick joke in there somewhere. Itās a social norm to make those who are average or smaller feel less-than. So, no wonder we feel like we canāt satisfy anyone. The messages are everywhere and our brain gets trained to believe them. Sucks. I read a great book called The Small Penis Bible by Ant Smith and it was actually pretty helpful. Itās on Amazon if interested. Put things into perspective and lighted up the seriousness I felt around the issue.