Low self-esteem due to size

I have a serious lack of sexual confidence due to my penis size , I use to watch a lot of porn.
My size is 6 1/2 inchā€™s and it really puts me down thinking about having sex. When I was in my teens I could get rock hard erections and one day I was about to have sex for the first time when my partner told me she wasnā€™t a virgin and for some reason this shook me to me core and gave me a massive negative body reaction, I could feel my entire body change in that moment. Since then Iā€™ve never been able to get a rock hard erection during sex.

I feel like no one has the same problem as me and it would be reassuring to know others have faced the same problem??

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Hey man, as a guy gay id like to assure you that youā€™re well above the average size. You definitely donā€™t have to worry about it.after all, itā€™s not about size, itā€™s about your skills.

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Yea I can relate to that. I watched a lot of porn too. Iā€™m 6.1 inches myself. Honestly your size is good. You donā€™t need to walk around with a club hanging. Your issue is probably physiological and seems to be caused by the news received from woman. The shame, inadequacy, and maybe even betrayal hijacked your brain. Now youā€™re carrying that shame around. It was sorta the same for me. I was stressing out about the week I turn 21 and when to sleep with a headache that night. The next morning is was just nothing. Wishy washy libido, morning wood, and getting erections. Though I could still get hard and finish from erotica and masturbating no problem. I realize my problem might also be also physiological with this sudden ED. I talked to a trusted friend and that helped. Work up confidence as well. Personally Iā€™m gonna get a physical and get my hormones checked just to make sure

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Being a bi guy - I have both experience withe women and many men as well - your size is totally fine and defo no need to worry - I am below 6.5 inch and still got many compliments - that I have a big one - soā€¦.just relax and enjoy sex bro!

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Dude, donā€™t stress thatā€™s a great size! In fact itā€™s almost in the 94 percentile for global average (per calcsd penis percentile calculator)!! I sometimes feel down about my size too, itā€™s about a half inch shorter than it used to be, but still donā€™t have a reason to feel bad about it as itā€™s till big. You need to embrace it and be proud of it! Good luck!

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Do you mean the issue is psychological as selected-chocolateā€™s thoughts are whatā€™s contributing big time to his issues? He says as soon as he found out his partner wasnā€™t a virgin he developed a problem with ED. Itā€™s definitely not physical or physiological as you said because just before that he had rock hard erections. Heā€™s inner critic is telling him heā€™s got a small dick because heā€™s compared himself to all the porn stars big cocks even though heā€™s bigger than average.

Youā€™re definitely not the only one to feel this way. Itā€™s happened to me too but funny thing is Iā€™ve never had a complaint and usually get repeated requests form hookups even though Iā€™m smaller than you. You might be smaller than the porn stars but do you really think they represent the average Jo as far as penis size, physique and looks? Dude, youā€™re above average size so be proud of your cock and silence your inner critic by working through this program. When you can just be in the moment and enjoy the pleasurable sensations without those damaging thoughts, youā€™ll be rock hard again and your partner will be as excited as you, Be patient and kind to yourself. Talk to yourself like your best mate and be encouraging.

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Yea. In hindsight itā€™s probably performance anxiety.

How did it get half an inch shorter?

dude u got a big dick dw ab that shit. porn is all fucking fake ignore it. yours is an inch above average so be happy with that. if the woman loves you enough, size donā€™t matter. take that to the bank bro :heart:

6.5 in is above average though.