My my situation is different but my ED is solely caused by Confidence and lack of for that matter. I’m an Average sized guy at 6 inches. I have amazing sex when I’m feeling confident and in my body. When I’m anxious and feel unworthy I can barely get it up. Think I should do counseling, want to permanently be more confident.
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I’m in the same situation. I’ve had some really good sex with my S.O., but all it takes is one flub up and the vicious cycle starts. I’ve lost all confidence in the bedroom and I even get to where I fear the next time we have sex. That’s no way to live. That’s why I’m here, I can’t get out of the vicious cycle and want to gain confidence back, buy trying to do away with negative thoughts and replace with positive ones.
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I’m in a similar situation.
New relationship. And something triggered it. Probably as she is the most attractive women I’ve ever slept with. Maybe performance issues. But I get hard. And any slight distraction it goes. Think I’m in my head too much
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I’m about average too but I feel so small especially compared to most of the men I meet. The whole discussion about porn and unrealistic expectations of size is one thing (mainly I suppose for straight men) but for gay men, it’s about real life, intimate comparison and that’s when I lose it when the vide isn’t right as I’m just assuming they’re disappointed and/or faking it and being kind.
@scientific-lime-owl – sounds like you’re falling into the mind-reading trap. How do you feel when you meet someone who has a smaller size than you? Do you get disappointed?
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Yes it’s interesting. Usually absolutely not. Infact, if he’s attractive generally then it’s really exciting.