Thinking I’m tired and I know the erection won’t be great
Playing with myself or watching porn, either on the day or a day or two before hand can lead to anxious thoughts
Being with a girl for the first time or using a condom
Changing position and when she’s on top, always start spectating when she’s on top as I know as soon as im not hard enough it’s just game over
I’ve had times wearing a condom when there’s been absolutely no issues. I don’t know where the idea came from that if I wear it I’ll stop getting hard because the evidence, until recently, hasn’t been there.
I definitely start planning situations out in my mind too much and when and how hard I should be etc and if it’s not that way then I completely lose my erection. I’m waiting nervously for my partner to say ‘I want you to fuck me’, and I pressure myself to be ready for that moment.
Not really to sure to be honest, I guess it’s the fact my misses is so boring in bed and it’s the same thing every time never wants to change things around or try something different.
Reaching for and putting on a condom, doing doggy style and any moment that I’m left alone during sex.
When I am high
Will I be able to stay hard enough in the condom that it stays on!
Literally this! When I go to put a condom on after foreplay
Just pretty much putting the condom on. I try to put it on faster so I won’t lose my erection.
Any situation in which i’m the one i initiating penetration are what trigger my anxiety.
It’s the before it once I’ve got it in n fucked her for a bit it’s all good I’ve fucked birds n been loving it I jsut have pure o ocd so it’s thoguhts I can’t control even tho I’ve fucked girls and been loving n will be getting boners over fittys all the time n every single time ive ever watched porn been loving the fittys I still get thoughts about fears that I’m gay ive never wanted to fuck a lad in my life it’s just out of my control n when I’m about to fuck a girl get bad anxiety n am that anxious can’t get it up
putting on a condom; transitioning from foreplay to intercourse; when I know that she wants sex gives me performance anxiety; when she tells me she doesn’t like something i’m doing or asks for something specific - this should be a good thing. but makes me anxious because I feel like I’m not doing a good job
Use a condom
When I feel like I HAVE to get it up. I put the pressure on myself but I’m starting to realize it’s the spectatoring and I need to get into my body and out of my head
After drinking or smoking especially but sex usually follows drinking after a night out so it’s hard to not do it.
I usually have problems staying hard when I drink. But recently with my new partner, I get aroused during foreplay and try to rush into things before I immediately get soft and ruin the whole night
For me because it’s happened I now feel I am walking a tightrope. It might get semi hard and I’m almost willing it to get harder because it’s so close, then during foreplay occasionally it will get hard and that inner voice says but how long will this last, you need to keep it and she needs to feel it’s hard because the whole thing hasn’t done her confidence any good. I then want to get to penetration quickly but it often softens again quickly when I feel the anxiousness or me drop straight out of the moment because I have caught myself self listening to the inner narrative
As soon as I penetrate I immediately worry about going soft, I never let a girl go on top, I just go straight into worrying and spectatoring