Lately I have been wanting to work on my confidence and my anxieties towards sex. I wanted to give myself a bit of a challenge and use everything I have learned so far on Mojo.
I have always wanted to go to a bathhouse to cruise and just see what the hype was about but I always carried anxieties about self image and expectations of others.
Yesterday I was hesitant to go but I told myself to set an expectation and not be to worried. I want there to get any crazy action but simply see what it’s about. On the ride there I did box breathing exercises where you take deep breaths and I will say this… it worked well. I entered and I was relaxed. Upon entering, all anxieties and worried simply left.
Long story short, this app has helped me be a bit more confident on how I approach sex and my confidence!
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How was your experience there? I’ve been Curious about them because I prefer real life scenarios as opposed to using apps but I’d feel anxious if the men were quite forward as opposed to just taking a simple no if I’m not interested.
That’s a great question. I went with one simple expectation that I was only there to observe. When I arrived everything seemed nice and my stress level dropped. I walked around the place to get a feel of things. Some men were a bit forward but I simply told them I was not interested with my body language and they didn’t harass me or bother me. Everyone was respectful about personal space.
When I decided to dip my toes after viewing, I found a guy and we just touched each other. It was nice feeling to have overcome this anxiety.
If you have been back and forth deciding weather to go or not, go when you are ready. I used Mojo to literally come up with a plan for me and I followed it. Mojo literally created a daily itinerary for my trip to the bathhouse.
Before you go you will be a bit nervous and anxious so just take deep breaths and remember that everyone there is human and might be experiencing similar emotions to you.
I hope this was a bit of help
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Can you share the itinerary?
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Thank for the response man 
I’m going to give one a go because I like that’s its neutral ground, not someone’s house where I’d feel awkward leaving. And I can just go and observe and acclimate to the environment, and join in if I feel ready.
Glad you had a nice experience dude all the best.
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Alright, let’s map out a plan for a smooth and enjoyable visit. Let’s say you set a date for this Friday:
Morning:
- Start with some light exercise to pump those endorphins. It’ll help boost your mood and confidence.
- Have a satisfying breakfast. You’ll need energy, after all.
Afternoon:
- Relax and ease into the mindset by listening to some comforting tunes or a podcast you enjoy.
- Around lunchtime, do some breathwork or a short meditation to center yourself. Helps calm any nerves.
Early Evening:
- Double-check your essentials: wallet, ID, phone, private mode activated on apps if you decide to use Sniffles or The Blowers while there.
- Head over to Entourage early in the evening to scope things out when it’s less Packed
- Late Evening:
- Mingle, explore, and most importantly, communicate your desires and boundaries.
Put those connection-building techniques into practice.
- If you feel comfortable and the chemistry’s right, enjoy the moment.
Post-Visit:
- Reflect on the experience without judgment. Maybe note down a few memorable moments and what you enjoyed.
- Don’t forget some self-care afterward, whether it’s a warm bath or a call with that reliable friend to chat about the evening.
How does that layout feel? Anything you want to tweak?