Becoming avoidant of potential hookups

The most draining thing that has been happening is I’m unsure of my ability to get hard, and have started naturally avoiding sexual situations which is super degrading, really hoping MOJO can help me overcome this as I am missing out on fun and connection because of it. Going to try commit to more situations and even if I don’t get hard, have a good time and make the most of it to build confidence and beat the flight part of fight or flight :raised_hands:t4:

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I’m with you on this. I was reluctant to initiate sex with my partner for fear of failure. So then they initiated it… I felts out of control… and bang. Fight or flight. BUT…… I’m having real success with mojo.
It takes a leap of faith in oneself……
I’m Still a bit fearful, but massively more confident… and much more successful in the bedroom… and in other places… which was fun… I’m trying to say…my mojo is on its way back… yep… it took some work with this program… but I’m getting there… good luck to you … I’m sure you’ll get the fun back in your life.

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Avoiding situations is really common when you are not feeling confident. That’s when the inner critic can get pretty loud. Great you have found Mojo, it will help you get your confidence back. It is helpful to set aside a few weeks to work on things by yourself if you can. Then when you are feeling more confident and have learnt a lot from the content - you can choose when and how you want your next experience. Good luck! : )

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How long untill you started to see these results?

There isn’t a straightforward answer here……. I saw an improvement immediately once I understood it was ā€œall in my headā€.
Then I slipped back a bit and my confidence dropped…. And I relooked at the exercises, especially box breathing, and meditation… and gradually built my confidence back up……
sometimes something will put me off… like wrestling with a bloody condom wrapper, or music stopping me from relaxing… but I’m doing well and the more I relax and enjoy the moment… the better it gets.
You’ve got this….