Looking for opinions

I have had no erection problems in the past but they recently started at 29. I can masterbate and get hard but when I think of getting a boner or trying to have sex I get anxiety so bad in my stomach it prevents it. I feel like I’m having to flex my muscles to keep my boner and not sure if it was like that before I’ve masterbated so much to prove I can get hard it started to hurt lol. So how can I get over this anxiety? What’s the best way?

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This is the hardest part of the journey, Im fighting this exact thing for 3 years now, it becomes better and lighter but suddenly it feels like Im never getting relaxed again. Then the next morning we have sex with the morning wood you feel hope and the evening its the anxiety again.

Afterall I think we should somehow remember how we felt the last time we had good sex and try to compare it to the present state.
As I finaly revealed that if i think about having sex, getting hard, performing good, satisfying my partner these thoughts are pushing the anxiety and fight or flight mode just goes on.

Every training in mojo is important, think about it like this - every exercise in mojo can lower with some % your anxiety in the long term, i think meditations, resentising, grounding techniques as 5 sense loop, kegels, and reprograming negative toughts are the most effective ones but yeah, most of the time we can get hard only if we dont care what will be the outcome of the sexual encounter , whatever practice you do, If you are in a hidden fight or flight mode you wont get a boner, its just too hard.

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