Hi I’m 19 healthy and athletic,I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life and it really affects me sexually.It was sparked by my first ever sexual encounter when I couldn’t get it up and the girl blocked me straight after.
I figured it was because of my porn habit which I didn’t manage to kick until a few months back.Once kicked I was able to have daily intercourse with my beautiful girlfriend no problem.Then one time it happened and it started an endless cycle.It even seems to be somewhat related to where I’m at as when I’m at home it works better than when I’m at my university campus.It’s so annoying as when we went on holiday I only managed to have sex with her twice and although im honest and she’s supportive im convinced it’s pushing her away.It doesn’t really match my outwardly confident persona and is really hurting my self confidence and security in my relationship and desperately need advice on how to get my mojo back!!
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I’m 26 and literally have the same exact thing happening…the spiral of it happening once and then it effects the next time …and that last time effects the next time and so on and on.
I think it has alotnto do with porn.
You are wiring your brain to be aroused watching other people have sex rather than the act itself.
Bro the exact same thing here. I’m 24, very healthy, I go to the gym, I’m confident in every day life. But whenever I have a bad experience sexually, it completely tears me apart and it’s so hard to come back from.
I’ve been dating my best friend for over a year, she is absolutely the love of my life and there is nothing more I want to do than please her. Our first 10 months were phenomenal, then I had one issue and it fucking wrecked me. For the next like 3 months I was so turned off to sex. I felt like a failure.
I got this app and I actually got my mojo back (no pun intended). All I needed honestly was to hear that it was all in my head. It helped a lot.
My advice, during sex, focus on how your penis feels. Tell her you love her (if you’re at that point). Touch her and feel her. Remember, sex is about a connection. Once you feel that connection, you stop thinking about self criticism.
Here I am trying to teach, but then today I had another problem having sex. We had sex for like 30 seconds, and for some reason I was worried that I was losing it. Then guess what, I lost it.
I hope now that I know it’s in my head, I can get over it. And you can too.
Good luck, brother. It’s a mental game. Another piece of advice I have, is see some nature. Go camping. The reason humans have anxiety is because we no longer have real danger in our lives. I’ve never actually had legit fear for my life other than like sliding on ice in a car. Once you realize life is so good, it should help with you anxiety.