It’s been some time since my seed of doubt got planted and even though I have struggled a lot and have had shame that hits ego like nothing else, I have prevailed, I’ve been able to have sex again with different partners and I KNOW I can relax and let myself enjoy the company and the moment. Maybe there are times that I can’t get it up because x or y reasons, but it doesn’t mean that anxiety has defeated me or that I will have to do years of work again, I am writing this to remind me what I have learned and how it’s helped me. First and most important, anxiety is always trying to teach me something, if I change the point of view, all anxiety is really telling me is that my standards or my perception of myself has been inflated and I need to remember I’m only a human being that is not perfect. Secondly, if I have sex is for me and not to tell stories to my friends, I’m not less of a man if I don’t have sex and knowing this takes pressure of my shoulders. Third, sex is to enjoy, it’s not something I’ll be evaluated (if it was evaluated, I can still use mouth and hands to pleasure my partner so I’m covered), there’s no pass or fail, only enjoy that someone else is there to pleasure me because they want to be there. Lastly, if I ever doubt myself, always remember that every time I fall, I’ll create stronger foundations of character and recovery will be much faster and a key point is that THERE IS recovery, there’s no forever hole, everything is temporary, good and bad. I love myself because I’m here building my foundations again and if someone reads this, I’m glad and I hope your journey is worth the wait and effort 
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Well put brother!!!
I feel 
the same!!
Thanks for the reminder!!