Sex my whole life has been a roller coaster of success and failure. Since breaking up with my last girlfriend 8 months ago and having infrequent sex my performance has got more erratic and worsening. Once I perform successfully, my inner critic disappears mostly, and I am fine. It is always the first time, and if that doesn’t go well, it starts a snowball effect.
I have high libido and am in good health, but my mental health is starting to suffer.
Hej my man, I am on a very seminar boat as you. Anxiety has been part of my sex life since teenage years. With some partners I had very little anxiety and after first successful dip it never reaccured. But if I did get anxious and evaded the head on problem, either taking pills (which is ridicolous when you are healthy) or just angering myself, it would stay.
I am also sporty, women like me a lot and I had quite a few partners in my life, so I am very experienced in dating. But the anxiety still sticks with me to this day. For example… in one week I had two sexual partners, one was an old aquaintance I met at holidays long time ago, where I had sex with no issues because I was relaxed, the other was new, very hot, love her, but I got into my head. With first I had no issue, she reached climax multiple times, I finished, had a hard on with no issue. With the second I struggled and was just thinking about my dick going soft.
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Fuck! I could have written that. I have no problem in relationships. Its when i am single and dating and having sex with various women trying to find my ‘one’.
My problem started because i got active very early at 14 with an older woman and my first 10 years were a nightmare. From 14 to 24. I am 51 now and still am horny everyday. Like you, i have no problem attracting women.
The most recent disaster was on weekend when a women i thought i liked was drunk, rang me for a booty call and pretty much used me as sex toy. It was all about her needs , no sensual foreplay and was yuk.
I have to get back on top of this now before things get any worse.